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Sex without a condom
Today I got a phone call off a friend at university (my housemate for the last two years) who is now doing a industrial placement in Reading.
He was a virgin until last night.
Now he was a bit embarassed about losing his virginity to a fat ugly bird from manchester (hes not a bad looking guy) but after speaking to him about sex it appears he knew absolutely nothing at all.
I was the third person he had told the news too (the other two were female friends of mine, however I had my phone off all day as I was working on my dissertation, but I had about 10 missed calls) When I switched my phone on it rang immediatly and he told me he was no longer a virgin. I spoke to him about it and congratulated him. I then started asking him questions.
One of my first questions to him was did he enjoy it, he didnt enjoy it and I told him it was his first time thats too be expected. My questions started getting a bit more detailed until I reached the major question.
Did you have sex without a condom?
To which he replied No.
I then asked him was she on the pill?
He replied yes.
One of the reasons he replied yes was because im very pro condom usage, ive dont have sex without a condom (I hear its great but quite frankly I dont want to risk it)
So I then gave him a lecture on stds etc including of course she could have had aids (she was a random girl, friend of a friend, it was a one night stand)
I then asked him again are you sure she was on the pill.
He finally confessed to me that she wasnt.
I didnt want to worry the guy but I will use a condom and ive expressed in the past why i have always used a condom.
So I talked about pregnancy with him.
His reply was perhaps the most ludicrous ive ever ever heard
"She cant get pregnant if its my first time"
I asked him did he ejaculate in her and he said "Yes"
so I said of course she can, he then said well what are the chances look how long it takes some people to get pregnant.
Basically ive told the guy to find out who this girl is, make sure she has the morning after pill. I also told him to get himself checked out just incase god forbid he does have a STD.
Im just shocked not at the fact that he lost his virginity but at the lack of knowledge on the whole area. In my school not only did we have a decent sex education but my friends from back home we all talk about sex, its a way to improve imo and share tips from past experience. The guy never used to want to hear about me and my other housemates talk about sex as he was a virgin so we respected his wishes and kept the details to a minimum.
But seriously how dumb can someone be?
This guy isnt thick, hes a bright kid but ****ing hell where has he been for the last 5 years. Hes 21 and he thought a girl cant get pregnant from unprotected sex.
This made me think are there people out there who although lack sexual experience as uneducated as him at 21 or younger/older or is this a isolated case. I would hope its isolated. Im also interested to see where people stand on the use of condoms. As ive said before I will have sex with a condom, however I do know some of my friends who have run the risk in the past.
Anyway im slightly shocked at the end of the day, really quite shocking stuff.
Finally I understand I probably didnt help the guy out, hes probably feeling quite worried and scared at the moment, im going to phone him in 20 minutes or so and have a chat to him to try and put his mind at rest as the chances of him having an STD or her being pregnant are probably not as high as I made out,
but is there anything I should say to him that I havent already?
GD advise me.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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Did you have sex without a condom?
To which he replied No.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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but is there anything I should say to him that I havent already?
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"You should have had more sex with her" seems to be rather apt.
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Re: Sex without a condom
I think english is your enemy when trying to get your point across in this thread.
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Re: Sex without a condom
"Dont be a fool, wrap your tool"
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Re: Sex without a condom
Mm yes when you "don't know what you're doing" it can be something else to worry/think about. But ends up being a lot less worry/hassle in the long run. It is rather shocking that 'clever' people can't be that... well... ignorant. :\
And the daily mail says there should be less sex education in schools
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Originally Posted by Toccata & Fugue
Pig, you don't need to lay on that stuff the very first time, even if it is the sensible thing to do. You're not his dad.
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No, but a friend generally doesn't want to see a friend get herpes / a kid. And as this can happen the first time (or the second), it's probably worth warning him about asap.
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Re: Sex without a condom
I gave up trying to understand that :|
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Re: Sex without a condom
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I gave up trying to understand that :|
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Originally Posted by Smudge
"Dont be a fool, wrap your tool"
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Re: Sex without a condom
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I gave up trying to understand that :|
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Re: Sex without a condom
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I think english is your enemy when trying to get your point across in this thread.
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I think you were being a bit harsh Pig, you don't need to lay on that stuff the very first time
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very much so I just dont want a friend of mine to have aids or to get a girl pregnant.
I spoke to him and I tried to reassure him, he seemed a bit happier by the end of the convo and thanked me for my advice.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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"Dont be a fool, wrap your tool"
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i had a friend who followed that advice
except he used a crisp packet
/me shudders at memory
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Re: Sex without a condom
Fat girls don't shag around, so they don't have STD's
and she proberbly eats the baby when it comes out, so no worries their
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Re: Sex without a condom
Ita amazing how many people aged 21 or older know almost nothing about sex
personally i think a condom is a must have thing these days unless you are comitting to a serious long term relationship with someone who you know you can trust completely.
I remember people at my old school using mars bar wrappers, Rector came over the tannoy telling people not to do it, found it funny at the time tho in reality it can be really serious doing that heh.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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Today I
"She cant get pregnant if its my first time"
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This is not only gold, but it's ridiculously sad.
I say you knock some sense into him. And make sure he knows how stupid he is.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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i had a friend who followed that advice
except he used a crisp packet
/me shudders at memory
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Salt and vinegar?
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Re: Sex without a condom
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except he used a crisp packet
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I assume that's british for 'potato chip bag'
That's ****ing hilarious.
edit : damn you furball!
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Re: Sex without a condom
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I assume that's british for 'potato chip bag'
That's ****ing hilarious.
edit : damn you furball!
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I'm pretty sure that I was serving crisps at parties long before your nation was created.
though I confess that the bags came later.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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I'm pretty sure that I was serving crisps at parties long before your nation was created.
though I confess that the bags came later.
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A Canadian nation is a nonexistant paradox, so in reality, I agree.
However I doubt you were born when 'my nation' was 'created'
I imagine, however, that having sex with a bag of chips on your dick must be quite the unpleasantly oily feeling for both.
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Re: Sex without a condom
you imagine too little.
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Re: Sex without a condom
the worse thing is he brought the crisp packet to school the next day
and i think it was a skips packet rather then salt and vinegar
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Re: Sex without a condom
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the worse thing is he brought the crisp packet to school the next day
and i think it was a skips packet rather then salt and vinegar
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small cock then.
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Re: Sex without a condom
Still gotta sting...
Edit: Hold on, you telling me his lady friend actually went along with his 'inventive' birth control solution
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Re: Sex without a condom
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Edit: Hold on, you telling me his lady friend actually went along with his 'inventive' birth control solution
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Indeed.
One fears, does one not, that she is not 'quite' the lady.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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Still gotta sting...
Edit: Hold on, you telling me his lady friend actually went along with his 'inventive' birth control solution
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well she was the school bike
Quote:
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small cock then.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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The only place I can get salt and vinegar crisps is at the local English football pub. Wonderfull place.
Although a 7 feet high Irish rugby player with fists the size of shovels and a thouroughly broken nose gave me quite a scare one time.
But after talking to him he turned out to be a nice guy, and promised me he'd introuduce me to his siters if I ever visited Ireland.
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It's funny when it happens isn't it?
I've had so many men like that cry like a baby and hug me as though I was their mother. Nothing sexual, it was always the fear of prison which so moved them.
But it is a very valuable lesson.
To learn that beyond every front, every facade, they are all just humans.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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BTW: I just heard a semi-fun joke:
Why does the sun never set on the British Empire?
- Because we're better than you
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Re: Sex without a condom
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I was the third person he had told the news too (the other two were female friends of mine, however I had my phone off all day as I was working on my dissertation, but I had about 10 missed calls) When I switched my phone on it rang immediatly and he told me he was no longer a virgin.
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Re: Sex without a condom
i'm patiently awaiting the day nodrog will phone me.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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very much so I just dont want a friend of mine to have aids
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"The best form of birth control is not telling the girl your (real) name"
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Re: Sex without a condom
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Get new friends, seriously.
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Re: Sex without a condom
The only sex education I had was porn so needless to say the first time I tried to use a condom was a disaster. All i knew of condoms was you need to have it on during intercourse, I didn't know when and how you should put it on. I was round at my then GFs house and we were kissing and fooling around so I thought this must be the moment so I went upstairs to the toilet, unravelled my condom and then fiddled about until it was over my flacid member, pulled up my boxers and trousers and went back downstairs.
We moved the fooling around from the sofa to the floor and I got cramp in my leg which made me jump up and hop about a bit, her rottweiler took exception to this and bit my foot through my trainer and drew blood. I was gutted at the time but that dog saved me from looking like a complete novice.
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Re: Sex without a condom
a kid who used to go my school kept the condom he used when he lost his virginity in his pocket for weeks and shown it to anyone and everyone.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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a kid who used to go my school kept the condom he used when he lost his virginity in his pocket for weeks and shown it to anyone and everyone.
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ahh the joys of the playground
how i miss them so
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Re: Sex without a condom
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a kid who used to go my school kept the condom he used when he lost his virginity in his pocket for weeks and shown it to anyone and everyone.
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It`s one thing I woudln`t dare confiscate if I were a teacher
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Re: Sex without a condom
At 21 he's a novice.
18 was the age I was novice. But hell I wasn't as thick as you're friend pig.
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Re: Sex without a condom
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18 was the age I was novice. But hell I wasn't as thick as you're friend pig.
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now you have actually met piglet.
so put one and one together ...
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I think I spelt something wrong there......
Let me fix it
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18 was the age I was a novice. But hell I wasn't as thick as your friend pig.
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Breathing deeply, walking backwards,
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Re: Sex without a condom
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I think I spelt something wrong there......
Let me fix it
Either way, very evil Yahwe.
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I didn't give a shit about your typing.
I meant that piglet is thick so he is likely to have friends who are also thick.
(and i know i can say all this without offending piglet because piglet knows that I am right)
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I think the lad's got a brain but he's probably not using it to its potential and decides to effectively be a pig towards women, etc.
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I didn't give a shit about your typing.
I meant that piglet is thick so he is likely to have friends who are also thick.
(and i know i can say all this without offending piglet because piglet knows that I am right)
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ofc you wouldnt offend me, but quite simply your wrong.
While out of my friends from back home im only one of three who went to university out of a group of ten or so friends that doesnt mean they are thick. They may not be educated to the top level but im sure if you had a conversation with them they could more than challenge your intelect (and anyone elses for that matter.)
My friends at university are once again bright and once again they constantly challenge me and the way I think. The reason I think he is so naive when it comes to the subject of sex is the lack of education on the subject and not only that but the fact that he hasn't really had a proper girlfriend (he had one but they never had sex, nor spoke about it)
Back to myself maybe I am thick, who knows. I dont care really. I am what I am, no point pretending to be able to write amazingly yet in real life I cant string together a sentance.
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Re: Sex without a condom
Honey
I love you.
But that post contains more logical flaws than the bible.
I never expected you to care about the fact that you are thick. In fact I never expected you to be offended by the fact that your friends are thick.
I never wanted to offend.
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Back to myself maybe I am thick, who knows. I dont care really. I am what I am, no point pretending to be able to write amazingly yet in real life I cant string together a sentance.
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Cause I am, whatever you say I am
If I wasn't, then why would I say I am?
In the paper, the news everyday I am
I don't know it's just the way I am
Some people might figure this out and neg rep me. *shrug*
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Re: Sex without a condom
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Some people might figure this out and neg rep me. *shrug*
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or they might say:
I am what I am
I don't want praise I don't want pity
I bang my own drum
Some think it's noise I think it's pretty
And so what if I love each sparkle and each bangle
Why not see things from a different angle
Your life is a shame
Till you can shout out I am what I am
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Come to think of it, that quote I made represents your persona...
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If Yahwe meant "thick" as in "badly educated" then he's right piglet (about your buddy).
As your friend doesn't seem to have a clue about the dangers of unprotected sex
Would be a real bummer to make a girl pregnant on your first time. That'd sure put you off sex... y'know... forever.
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unless you happened to like babies ...
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This girl was quite happy for your friend to **** her unprotected as well? Responsibility is shared.
And the whole "he could get Aids" thing is quite annoying too.
afaik it's very hard for a man to get anything like that from a woman...
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Re: Sex without a condom
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afaik it's very hard for a man to get anything like that from a woman...
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are you campaigning to be ignorance's new poster boy?
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