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*EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
I fell in love with a girl in 2005. I left her shortly afterwards because our friendship was failing due to it. I napalmed the bridges, she rebuilt them and then I manipulated her into her nuking them. So getting back together isnt an option.
I have a sort of problem with forgetting her, every week or so she'll pop up into my memory, even though I am now in a different territory. I've tried it all; drinking copious amounts of alcohol, writing, writing the emotions down and burning them, sleeping around, falling in love again, even a week of isolated fasting in a forest. None of it worked.
So I turn to you guys who I havent spoken to since I left in round three. Has anyone here managed to do it? If you have, or even if you have an original idea on how to purge the memories from yourself, please, I want to hear it. You'll hear no more emo from me outside this thread as I am far too arrogant and full of myself to be emo.
Do not offer more sex unless you are canadian, or american and female, and hot, and human.
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2 Jan 2007, 16:28
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Re: the sex bit
Not you Dace, Paul, or Meaple.
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2 Jan 2007, 16:34
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
You learn to control your emotions and what you focus on.
It's great, it means you will never fall in love and you will be cynical as hell.
Really, it's not so great but hey.
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2 Jan 2007, 16:39
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
Yeah, nah I am there already, have been all my life. I can control my emotions in everything but that. I just get periodical twinges of despair and regret that last a few hours. I want to kill off those.
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2 Jan 2007, 16:40
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
You should have had more sex
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2 Jan 2007, 16:41
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
there is no such way, alcohol least of all ( which just makes things worse )
Learn to live with them instead
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2 Jan 2007, 17:15
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
Take more drugs.
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2 Jan 2007, 17:26
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
Well, first you buy a shovel and then you...
Actually, I'd better consult Yahwe concerning the legal ramifications of providing this kind of advice. I'd hate to be punished for something I've told you to do.
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2 Jan 2007, 18:30
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
I'm pretty sure the first step involves you never posting on this forum again but I'll accept suicide as a viable alternative.
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2 Jan 2007, 20:28
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
Uhm.
1. Delete all possible forms of contact or ways you might find out about her life. This includes her phone number(s), her e-mail addresses, her e-mails, any kind of other internet contact you might have.
2. Avoid contact with any mutual friends where you might "accidentally" hear about her life.
3. Avoid places she goes or might go (bars, clubs, restaurants, etc).
4. Spend more time with your friends.
5. Spend more time simply going out and talking to other girls. This doesn't have to be in a "let's go out and pull loads of girls! ooouuuuuie! rowdy rowdy lads night ouuuut!" thing. Just talking to other girls in a social setting is good for getting your confidence back up, and for helping you realise that old cliché about there being more fish in the sea.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
Really the best thing to do is to not try and repress her from your life, when you think about her don't try to instantly kill the memory or get it out of your head, just think on it a minute then get on with it and realize that even though she's not in your life anymore she was once, and you can't change it so there's no point denying it, then start doing something else to get her off your mind gradually.
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2 Jan 2007, 20:56
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
trying growing up
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2 Jan 2007, 20:56
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
find photo's of her in which she looks ugly. look at it whenever you start thinking of her again. goodluck shai!
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2 Jan 2007, 20:58
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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Originally Posted by jt25man
Really the best thing to do is to have a wank.
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2 Jan 2007, 22:26
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break it down!
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
From my (limited) personal experience; it is best to accept it and try to move on instead of just trying hard to forget about her. You will eventually forget about her. Although, this may be different when the extent of the emotion is different - I didn't love the girl that I have in mind, I just liked her a lot but couldn't see her anymore because I got with her on holiday. When I first got back, I really missed her, but with time my emotions towards her lessened and now when I think of her (rarely); I don't feel much emotion.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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I'm pretty sure the first step involves you never posting on this forum again but I'll accept suicide as a viable alternative.
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I was thinking of writing how I feel quite a bit same about my ex-girlfriend, but I think I'll abstain in the fear of the peer pressure making me look like a ****ing dork. That is, if there's any part of me not appearing like one left.
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2 Jan 2007, 22:40
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break it down!
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
Yeah dude, you look like a total dork since you won a round of PA, as does Lokken
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2 Jan 2007, 22:57
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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Originally Posted by Tietäjä
I was thinking of writing how I feel quite a bit same about my ex-girlfriend, but I think I'll abstain in the fear of the peer pressure making me look like a ****ing dork. That is, if there's any part of me not appearing like one left.
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My post wasn't really caused by the whole "I'm still in love, help" thing. More so
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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I fell in love with a girl in 2005. I left her shortly afterwards because our friendship was failing due to it. I napalmed the bridges, she rebuilt them and then I manipulated her into her nuking them. So getting back together isnt an option.
I have a sort of problem with forgetting her, every week or so she'll pop up into my memory, even though I am now in a different territory. I've tried it all; drinking copious amounts of alcohol, writing, writing the emotions down and burning them, sleeping around, falling in love again, even a week of isolated fasting in a forest. None of it worked.
So I turn to you guys who I havent spoken to since I left in round three. Has anyone here managed to do it? If you have, or even if you have an original idea on how to purge the memories from yourself, please, I want to hear it. You'll hear no more emo from me outside this thread as I am far too arrogant and full of myself to be emo.
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2 Jan 2007, 23:38
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
You made your decision - move on - and learn from it.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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Try 40 days and 40 nights like Jesus Christ did. A week is not enough.
I think the biggest mistake you've made with her is trying to make friends with her or attempted a "friendship" with her while being "in love" with her at the same time.
Guys are not designed to be friends with females. Although females don't know this, or deny the fact, the only reason we make friends with them is either we plan on f*cking them when the opportunity arises, or the slightest chance of sleeping with them later on is possible, no matter how remote that possibility is. Thus, you will never see yourself, or any of your guy buddies, making friends with ugly females.
Friendships are meant for people of the same sex. Fact.
As far as forgetting her:
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1. Delete all possible forms of contact or ways you might find out about her life. This includes her phone number(s), her e-mail addresses, her e-mails, any kind of other internet contact you might have.
2. Avoid contact with any mutual friends where you might "accidentally" hear about her life.
3. Avoid places she goes or might go (bars, clubs, restaurants, etc).
4. Spend more time with your friends.
5. Spend more time simply going out and talking to other girls. This doesn't have to be in a "let's go out and pull loads of girls! ooouuuuuie! rowdy rowdy lads night ouuuut!" thing. Just talking to other girls in a social setting is good for getting your confidence back up, and for helping you realise that old cliché about there being more fish in the sea.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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think the biggest mistake you've made with her is trying to make friends with her or attempted a "friendship" with her while being "in love" with her at the same time.
Guys are not designed to be friends with females. Although females don't know this, or deny the fact, the only reason we make friends with them is either we plan on f*cking when the opportunity arises, or the slightest chance of sleeping with them later on is possible, no matter how remote that possibility is. Thus, you will never see yourself, or any of your guy buddies, making friends with ugly females.
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I had plenty of male friends when i was younger and none of them wanted me for sex ...
I spent plenty of time hanging round .. drinking and generally doing bloke stuff .. like fixing cars and bikes etc.
I was the almost female go between who did the fun stuff like got girls phone numbers, informed the guys of the one that were interested, and the ones that were not, and on several occaisions was the only one man enough to go buy a packet of condoms from boots on saturday afternoon !
I was handy in a fight too.
so demigod .. your wrong !
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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Try 40 days and 40 nights like Jesus Christ did. A week is not enough.
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For Christ's sake, try something real.
I was thinking more like the 101 nights Marquis De Sade mentioned.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
If we want to do horrible generalisations can we at least move onto something like a guy is never "just" friends with a hot girl. Not that's true either, probably it's just more common than the alternate situation (I mean of girl with hot guy). I may want to sleep with a couple of friends I have who are girls or a friend's amazing girlfriend or whatever but that doesn't mean I can't be friends with them. To be honest from demigod's posts some times I rather wonder whether or not he doesn't bat for the other team
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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Guys are not designed to be friends with females. Although females don't know this, or deny the fact, the only reason we make friends with them is either we plan on f*cking them when the opportunity arises, or the slightest chance of sleeping with them later on is possible, no matter how remote that possibility is. Thus, you will never see yourself, or any of your guy buddies, making friends with ugly females.
Friendships are meant for people of the same sex. Fact.
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I beg to differ, I know lots of females who I like as friends and do not want to have sex with at all - some being fit and some ugly, what you've just come up with is bullshit
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Thats just what they want you to think.
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so demigod .. ur rong lolz!
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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oh...sexy...
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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I fell in love with a girl in 2005. I left her shortly afterwards because our friendship was failing due to it.
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How do you fall in love and lose your friendship?
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3 Jan 2007, 00:53
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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Originally Posted by jt25man
Really the best thing to do is to have a wank.
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I thought about putting that, especially since that's a good way to get it over and done with quick...
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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Originally Posted by Malak
I have a sort of problem with forgetting her, every week or so she'll pop up into my memory, even though I am now in a different territory. I've tried it all; drinking copious amounts of alcohol, writing, writing the emotions down and burning them, sleeping around, falling in love again, even a week of isolated fasting in a forest. None of it worked.
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3 Jan 2007, 01:02
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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The quickest way I have found for losing any feelings of love I had for a girl was marrying her.
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3 Jan 2007, 01:02
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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I may want to sleep with a couple of friends I have who are girls or a friend's amazing girlfriend or whatever but that doesn't mean I can't be friends with them.
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I personally find that it does make friendships considerably more annoying though. If there's some girl I would want to sleep with, but she wasn't interested I generally wouldn't bother trying to be friends with them tbh.
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3 Jan 2007, 01:09
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
I don't think I've ever consciously tried to be friends with someone. Probably the process of rejection would add a sort of negative to the whole process of becoming friends sufficient to halt it before it really begins. Psychologically and sociologically speaking these aren't either/or or even #1 through #2673123 reasons why things work out the way they do.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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I don't think I've ever consciously tried to be friends with someone.
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Maybe not, but there's usually a series of steps where you make a decision to go to see a movie with someone, or a drink, etc. At each step it's fairly clear you've got a choice to be more/less their friend, even if you don't think of it in those terms.
In a scenario where it was clear they weren't interested in me but I was in them (or vice versa) then I doubt I could be arsed to hang around with them. From observations in others, that doesn't usually seem to go so well.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
As I said maybe some or most of the time it's not a good idea. Realistically this doesn't mean that it's necessarily a bad idea and there's not much more to rely on than your own understanding of whether or not it's a bad idea. Obviously if you've made a truly heroic number of crap decisions in this area I'd be more cautious about your own judgement but I wouldn't rely on others or external supposedly axiomatic principles.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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I beg to differ, I know lots of females who I like as friends and do not want to have sex with at all - some being fit and some ugly, what you've just come up with is bullshit
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There are exceptions to where you would willingly be friends with a female just as long as you have no motive or intention of sleeping with them, i.e. like you said, some being fit and some ugly.
It is very important to identify, in your mind (preferably) or openly, that fine line of "this is my friend" and "this is my GF/BF/wife/husband/f*ck-buddy/someone I would like to have sex with one of these days".
If that line is not identified then you can almost guarantee that that relationship, whatever the nature of the relationship is, is bound to fail unless you identify the difference and try your very best to act accordingly.
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I had plenty of male friends when i was younger and none of them wanted me for sex ...
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You are either;
-Ugly and/or fat beyond description. And those guy friends you have are genuine friends and buddies, and would not attempt or even think of having sex with you, or;
-You are attractive or semi-attractive, and they got you fooled.
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To be honest from demigod's posts some times I rather wonder whether or not he doesn't bat for the other team
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I got a jersey that says "Males" in the front and the number "69" in the back. We're on the same team though I do apologize for exposing this evil. Somebody's gotta say it, right?
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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You are either;
-Ugly and/or fat beyond description. And those guy friends you have are genuine friends and buddies, and would not attempt or even think of having sex with you, or;
-You are attractive or semi-attractive, and they got you fooled.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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You are either;
-Ugly and/or fat beyond description. And those guy friends you have are genuine friends and buddies, and would not attempt or even think of having sex with you, or;
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I thought you said earlier in this thread that it was impossible for guys to be friends with girls (ugly or otherwise)?
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
Well it's not 'impossible'. It's just rare for a guy to be "friends" with a girl he's not attracted to, that's all I'm saying.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
Relationships aren't either/or things because human interactions don't fall into neat categories.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
you know I'm increasingly sure demiGOD is a serial rapist.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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you know I'm increasingly sure demiGOD is a serial rapist.
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given the photos of himself he posted i agree the chance of him having sex consensually is slim to nil.
However one must not discount the existence of prostitutes.
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Re: *EMO THREAD* - How do you kill love?
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trying growing up
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