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18 Mar 2003, 01:24

Hi, I really need some advice from somewhere and as i cann't speak to my friends about this i thought i would try here.

Ok so i was out with some of my girlfriends today when one of them asked if she could have a chat with me as there was something she needed to tell me.

It turns out that she is totaly in love with me and has been for a long time, like years, but has kept her feelings hidden from everyone as she thought I wouldnt be interested (which i'm not), she even was in a long term relationship. I had no idea she felt like this, and as far as i know nor do any of my friends.

The reason she has told me now is that on Friday night i was quite drunk at a party and i kissed another girl, which was a joke really, although it did turn me on. So now my friend has split up with her boyfriend and 'come out' to me but i am not interested in a relationship at the moment with anyone especially my friend.

To make things worse i was seeing this same friends brother untill recently, and i think he stillhas feelings for me too.

Please help me I really need some advice.

Staryeyes.

MrL_JaKiri · 18 Mar 2003, 01:26

Using the mystical crystal ball of GD, I can predict the replies to any thead!

Gazing into its shimmering depths, I see that someone will suggest to either video tape it, or just scream 'Hot lezbo action!'.

18 Mar 2003, 01:28

I hope not i really need some good advice.

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 01:30

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Originally posted by MrL_JaKiri
Using the mystical crystal ball of GD, I can predict the replies to any thead!

Gazing into its shimmering depths, I see that someone will suggest to either video tape it, or just scream 'Hot lezbo action!'.

I was thinking along similar lines.

GD, is not the best place to get advice on relationships.

Most of the dwellers on here would be happy to get it on with a g0@t

queball · 18 Mar 2003, 01:30

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Originally posted by staryeyes
i am not interested in a relationship at the moment with anyone

What's the problem?

18 Mar 2003, 01:30

i don't want to 'go for it' i am not interested in my friend even slightly, even if i was gay (which i dont think i am) and looking for a relationship.

18 Mar 2003, 01:33

The problem is i just came out of a long term relationship (3years) and want some fun.

And how do i do that thing with the lines??

queball · 18 Mar 2003, 01:34

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Originally posted by staryeyes
The problem is i just came out of a long term relationship (3years) and want some fun.

And how do i do that thing with the lines??

Come to Reading then...

Each post should have a button on the right at the bottom saying "Quote".

18 Mar 2003, 01:37

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Originally posted by queball
Come to Reading then...

Each post should have a button on the right at the bottom saying "Quote".

Thats actually the sort of thing i interested in but reading is a bit far. And need to sort out this problem with my friend first i dont know what to say to her or how to act when i seeher tomorrow.

oh thats clever.

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 01:37

Joking apart.

Talk to your friend, explain to her your feelings, and that whilst you are extremely flattered in regard to her feelings towards you and that she feels she can trust you with her "secret" you have no desire to get into a gay relationship, as you are not gay.

Also explain to her that the reason you do not want any sort of relationship gay or otherwise, is that you are quite happy for the time being with things the way they are.

Tell her that you will still be her friend (if that is what you both want) and that you will keep her counsel for as long as she wants.

MrL_JaKiri · 18 Mar 2003, 01:41

From Essex are we hohohohohohohohoho

(stereotypes are bad

)

Starbucks · 18 Mar 2003, 01:42

Just ask her out you pussy

18 Mar 2003, 01:48

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Originally posted by Judge
Joking apart.

Talk to your friend, explain to her your feelings, and that whilst you are extremely flattered in regard to her feelings towards you and that she feels she can trust you with her "secret" you have no desire to get into a gay relationship, as you are not gay.

Also explain to her that the reason you do not want any sort of relationship gay or otherwise, is that you are quite happy for the time being with things the way they are.

Tell her that you will still be her friend (if that is what you both want) and that you will keep her counsel for as long as she wants.

I am going to try to tomorrow to talk to her and explain but i have no idea what to say, i dont think she will believe that i am not gay after Friday night, especially as i told her it turned me on as i had no idea of how she felt as she was still with her boyfriend.

All of my friends know why i split with my boyfriend, and know i am happy. I do still want to be her friend but i don't know how to act around her.

Also now i am starting to question if i am gay or at leat Bi (which i never believed exsisted untill now) which is really screwing with my head.

18 Mar 2003, 01:50

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Originally posted by MrL_JaKiri
From Essex are we hohohohohohohohoho

(stereotypes are bad )

No i am not, just my boyfriend was my first so now i want to have some fun before i look for a long term relationship and now i am questioning who i would want this with.

18 Mar 2003, 01:52

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Originally posted by Starbucks
Just ask her out you pussy

I am not even slightly interested in this girl, since Friday i have looked at my friends in a differant way, and i am not even remotly attracted to her in they way i am to some of my other friends. Although i wouldnt want any of them either.

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 01:54

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Originally posted by staryeyes
I am going to try to tomorrow to talk to her and explain but i have no idea what to say, i dont think she will believe that i am not gay after Friday night, especially as i told her it turned me on as i had no idea of how she felt as she was still with her boyfriend.

All of my friends know why i split with my boyfriend, and know i am happy. I do still want to be her friend but i don't know how to act around her.

Also now i am starting to question if i am gay or at leat Bi (which i never believed exsisted untill now) which is really screwing with my head.

As to what to say, only you will know that when you talk to her, she is your friend and you know her best.

Act towards her as you have always done, she has not suddenly become another person, she is still the same friend you have always had.

Whether you are gay, bi, or straight is not the issue in regard to your relationship with your friend.

It is something completely seperate that you will have to resolve once you have moved from the current situation.

Vaio · 18 Mar 2003, 02:03

Have you met Muslim ?

Vaio

18 Mar 2003, 02:10

ok so my friend just called me, we are going to meet up and talk tomorow about things, she said she knows i am not interested in her and that she is sorry for puting me in that position. I am slightly happer about that now and can at least stop worrying about that slightly.

I am also worried that she will find out the truth about Friday night, which would not be good. Only a few people know what happened, really, and thankfully i didn't tell her.

18 Mar 2003, 02:12

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Originally posted by Vaio
Have you met Muslim ?

Vaio

I have met a few muslims yes, non of my friends are muslim though, not that i am racist or anything i just dont have any muslim friends.

NEWSBOT3 · 18 Mar 2003, 02:16

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Originally posted by staryeyes
I have met a few muslims yes, non of my friends are muslim though, not that i am racist or anything i just dont have any muslim friends.

its a board in-joke you wont get
Muslim is a poster on here who's famously been ranting for months about his inability to get any interest from the opposite sex...

18 Mar 2003, 02:20

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Originally posted by NEWSBOT3
its a board in-joke you wont get
Muslim is a poster on here who's famously been ranting for months about his inability to get any interest from the opposite sex...

oh right. poor him, and i'm complaining about too much attention from the same sex.

MrL_JaKiri · 18 Mar 2003, 02:21

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Originally posted by staryeyes
oh right. poor him, and i'm complaining about too much attention from the same sex.

We told him he should be gay.

18 Mar 2003, 02:25

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Originally posted by MrL_JaKiri
We told him he should be gay.

hehe that made me smile for the first time in a while, thank you.
I am less worried about my friend now though, will just have to wait and see how she is tomorow.

s|k · 18 Mar 2003, 02:27

Stareyes sounds like a bad gimmic tbh.

18 Mar 2003, 02:30

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Originally posted by s|k
Stareyes sounds like a bad gimmic tbh.

what's a gimmic tbh? is it good or bad to be one?

cookiemay · 18 Mar 2003, 02:32

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Originally posted by s|k
Stareyes sounds like a bad gimmic tbh.

still not highly convinced about you still

Aryn · 18 Mar 2003, 02:32

i was just thinkin how it's funny that any other account could be created and everyone would scream '****E GIMMICK!!'

then one comes along that asks advice about lesbo relationships and '****e gimmick' is the last thing to cross your minds..

typical males i guess :P

cookiemay · 18 Mar 2003, 02:34

Quote:

Originally posted by Aryn
i was just thinkin how it's funny that any other account could be created and everyone would scream '****E GIMMICK!!'

then one comes along that asks advice about lesbo relationships and '****e gimmick' is the last thing to cross your minds..

typical males i guess :P

id' rather ask for pictures of sed friend and off staryeyes to see what the action is like

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 02:34

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Originally posted by staryeyes
what's a gimmic tbh? is it good or bad to be one?

Some people consider it "fun" to create a new account and pretend to be a new member, often posting contentious points for discussion. In the vain hope that is will provoke reactions.

tbh = to be honest (internet short hand)

18 Mar 2003, 02:34

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Originally posted by cookiemay
still not highly convinced about you still

about me? what do u mean? do you people not like me?

cookiemay · 18 Mar 2003, 02:35

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Originally posted by staryeyes
about me? what do u mean? do you people not like me?

no s|k

MrL_JaKiri · 18 Mar 2003, 02:35

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Originally posted by cookiemay
id' rather ask for pictures of sed friend and off staryeyes to see what the action is like

Thank you, I was wondering if the crystal ball had stopped working.

NEWSBOT3 · 18 Mar 2003, 02:36

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Originally posted by staryeyes
about me? what do u mean? do you people not like me?

dont worry about it, its nothing personal. 90% of people here wont accept your a real person for months. They are too used to people creating fake accounts for fun.

18 Mar 2003, 02:37

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Originally posted by cookiemay
id' rather ask for pictures of sed friend and off staryeyes to see what the action is like

you want pictures of me and my friend, i dont think i have any on the computer or you could have one of me at least. I will see if i can find one for you.

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 02:38

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Originally posted by MrL_JaKiri
Thank you, I was wondering if the crystal ball had stopped working.

If it is possible to stoop to an all time low, people will always live down to your expectations.

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 02:40

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Originally posted by staryeyes
you want pictures of me and my friend, i dont think i have any on the computer or you could have one of me at least. I will see if i can find one for you.

Hmm, you have not yet got the hang of this......

He is infering you will have some "lesbian action" shots of yourself and your friend.

Aryn · 18 Mar 2003, 02:42

out of all possible internet forums this 'person' has decided to come here.. to ask about LOVE ADVICE!!!

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

/me bribes a GD mod to do an ip check

18 Mar 2003, 02:43

Quote:

Originally posted by Judge
Hmm, you have not yet got the hang of this......

He is infering you will have some "lesbian action" shots of yourself and your friend.

oh right, i dont have any of those as there has never been any 'action' between me and my friend.

NEWSBOT3 · 18 Mar 2003, 02:44

Quote:

Originally posted by Aryn
out of all possible internet forums this 'person' has decided to come here.. to ask about LOVE ADVICE!!!

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

/me bribes a GD mod to do an ip check

Aryn dear, what happened to you being nice and trusting Alliance things mod. Now your all GD-ified

queball · 18 Mar 2003, 02:45

Quote:

Originally posted by Aryn
i was just thinkin how it's funny that any other account could be created and everyone would scream '****E GIMMICK!!'

then one comes along that asks advice about lesbo relationships and '****e gimmick' is the last thing to cross your minds..

typical males i guess :P

Getting jealous about a girl on an internet forum? Typical lonely females!

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 02:45

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Originally posted by staryeyes
oh right, i dont have any of those as there has never been any 'action' between me and my friend.

Yes I know, his was an attempt at provoking a reaction. Not everyone on here can be taken at face value. (even me sometimes

)

Most comments need a large pinch of salt.

18 Mar 2003, 02:46

Quote:

Originally posted by Aryn
out of all possible internet forums this 'person' has decided to come here.. to ask about LOVE ADVICE!!!

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

/me bribes a GD mod to do an ip check

oh i'm sorry, i had seen these forums before as a friend played the game a while ago and looked at it at my computer, i still had it in my favorites and had no where elce to go, i wouldn't know where to find anyother forums.

cookiemay · 18 Mar 2003, 02:47

Quote:

Originally posted by Judge
Yes I know, his was an attempt at provoking a reaction. Not everyone on here can be taken at face value. (even me sometimes )

Most comments need a large pinch of salt.

actually just wanted fotos of each of them to see what them looked like

MrL_JaKiri · 18 Mar 2003, 02:47

Quote:

Originally posted by Aryn
/me bribes a GD mod to do an ip check

Dynamic IP, so need an admin to do an ip match.

I can be repaid in sexual favours once you feel less ill.

NEWSBOT3 · 18 Mar 2003, 02:48

Quote:

Originally posted by staryeyes
oh i'm sorry, i had seen these forums before as a friend played the game a while ago and looked at it at my computer, i still had it in my favorites and had no where elce to go, i wouldn't know where to find anyother forums.

see previous comment regarding 90% of people on this board.

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 02:48

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Originally posted by cookiemay
actually just wanted fotos of each of them to see what them looked like

I appologise then, I missunderstood.

queball · 18 Mar 2003, 02:48

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Originally posted by cookiemay
actually just wanted fotos of each of them to see what them looked like

a/s/l too!!

18 Mar 2003, 02:49

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Originally posted by cookiemay
actually just wanted fotos of each of them to see what them looked like

that was what i thought you ment, everyone is very untrusting on here arn't they.

Judge · 18 Mar 2003, 02:50

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Originally posted by queball
a/s/l too!!

age (somewhere between 18 and 21)/ Sex Females/ Location not far from Reading

18 Mar 2003, 02:52

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Originally posted by queball
a/s/l too!!

a/s/l? more shorthand? i really dont use the internet much apartfrom tolook things up.