[Mistwraith]

Firstly - She needs to get her arse out of there.

Secondly - He needs to stop drinking, stop smoking (not saying either are bad things in moderation, but both heighten emotional states and his is obviously a bad one so neither are going to very good for him).

Thirdly - He needs to deal with his childhood so he doesnt repeat it and become his father.


beating him up will solve nothing, may in fact make things worse, as picking on those who cant defend themselves ( domestic violence and bullying) is a sign of low esteem and getting beaten up is not condusive to boosting that esteem.

Violence begetting violence, all you will do is make things worse.

But above all this, the woman involved has to realise this isnt her fault, and the Friend has to accept he has a problem and deal with it in a non aggressive manner.


Why is it so hard to deal with this with people you know ? Beacuse you thought you knew that person, you thought they were your friend, you cant believe you made such a bad judgement, and you wish that your wrong, that he isnt like that really, because it makes you feel like a bad person for not seeing it and you just want to ignore it because its painfull and you fear you will loose someone whom you thought was a friend.