[Sarina_Joy]

Basically the same thing happened with a friend of mine who came out. I think myself and most of his close friends had pretty much known he was gay since the age of 16 or so, but when he came out (at 21) he all of a sudden became more camp somehow. He was reading different magazines, socialising with different people and in a different way almost. I never considered him to be altering his behaviour to feel more comfortable in a 'gay' environment. On the contrary, I felt he had been covering up his campness to a certain degree for many years, and only since he had come out did he feel comfortable being himself in this way.

Have you ever considered that a similar thing may be true for your friend?

Did she only start listening to groups with female singers after she came out btw?

Oh and of course she only makes new friends that are lesbians. She's probably on the pull.

I don't know which stereotype or group I conform to, although the number of people over the years (including my own Mother) who have discreetly asked me if I'm a lesbian is quite unreal. (They base this mainly on the fact that I have short hair and don't wear makeup.)

I like "Loud and Aggressive" music, and I own a pair of Doc Martens - does that mean I'm pigeonholing myself?


Edit courtesy of Tony.